Bella understood this but she went to the opposite extreme and accepted invitations from men who met maybe just one or two of her criteria on the list. As a result, she went out with one man who was almost twice her age, a second who was much younger than her. And in your twenties, those few years make a huge difference in maturity in most cases.
So, we worked together or how she could meet men who were both age appropriate and had more of the traits she was looking for. I asked what she liked doing as a child and she told me she loved to learn. So, I suggested she take advantage of this passion and join a club. She again applied herself 200% to doing this task. Bella joined many clubs, learnt yoga and Pilates, nutrition and …
When we next met up, I asked how she was doing, had she met any men that she was attracted to. She told me no; most of the participants in her courses were women.
The next plan was to get her to go out with friends in the evening. She told me it was impossible with all the courses she was taking and the homework she had to do. I got the feeling that she was scared. What was going on? After a long list of reasons why she couldn’t socialize more, she finally told me the real reason. If she found the man of her dreams, she realized they would eventually get intimate and she felt embarrassed that she was still a virgin. I explained that the right man would not only respect her, but admire her for her choice.
This gave her the confidence to finally go out and enjoy herself with her friends a couple of times a week. I was not surprised to learn that she had met someone special a few months later. Their relationship blossomed. They moved in together within the year and I am expecting a wedding invitation any day now.
So how did I help her go from a twenty something singleton to an almost thirty something in a loving relationship? Using my process and powerful intuition to increase her own.